Tuesday, August 30, 2011

What is the Difference Between Giving Up and Letting Go?

Giving up often comes from a sense of desperation or hopelessness. The thought attached to this is frequently, "I don't care." You feel weak and like victim. 


Letting go comes from a position of trust....a trusting that if you step back from the situation, a better outcome will occur. You care very deeply but you realize this might not be the right time, or the right place, you may not have enough information or you might be the right person to support your family member in moving though the situation. It is a very powerful position.

Parenting Practice: This week, see if there is a situation that you might serve everyone better by letting go. A clue is to look for situations where you are more invested or attached than the other person.


By Kathryn Kvols, Author of  book and parenting course Redirecting Children's Behavior and founder of INCAF.

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Monday, August 22, 2011

Things that Make Your Heart Go "Awww"

Today I found a pink paper heart on the floor of my office. My daughter, 17, had cut paper hearts in three different sizes and strewn them on a path way from my bedroom to my computer where she had written a love note for my birthday. I had thought I had thrown them all out several weeks ago but every once in a while another one pops up somewhere in my office.....symbols of love. Every time I see one my heart goes, "awwww....I am loved." Brianna had no way of knowing how deeply this "act of sweetness" would move me.

This was a good reminder to me that it is not the big things but the little things that make the heart go "awwww...I am loved"!

Practice: This week do an "act of sweetness" for someone in your family.


By Kathryn Kvols, Author of Redirecting Children's Behavior and founder of INCAF

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