Of course you will want to bond with your child throughout the day but here are four times of the day that are ideal for creating bonding moments. They are as follows:
1. Early in the morning before we start our litany of what they need to be doing. With young children, you may want to have a special chair that you sit in together before they need to start their morning routine. It is best if this is done away from their bed.
2. Upon departure. It is helpful to have a "goodbye" routine. A routine that is unique for that child. For a toddler you may exchange a personal item that can be kept as a reminder of how much you love each other.3. Upon re-entry. Again, a routine that is welcoming, one that makes the child feel that he belongs and is he is entering into a space that is safe, secure and unconditionally loving. Don't be talking on your cell phone or texting! Be sure that your face lights up when you see your child.
4. Bedtime. Create an unhurried routine that helps the child feel close and connected. Make sure children have their own special time, with you or your partner. Having to share you with their sibling usually isn't satisfying. Being put to sleep by a stressed, tired adult, whose intention is to get them to bed so they can have sometime for themselves is not nurturing. I know this is difficult, however it is helpful to squeeze sometime for yourself during the day so that you have some energy left to connect with your child at bedtime.
Bonding can be a tricky thing due to tight schedules and our own lack of bonding in childhood. We all could use some good tips to bond with our kids. Please share your special ways you bond with your child.