Monday, September 26, 2011

Get in Your Child's Space Not Their Face!

Many of us think that bonding is done in early childhood and that we don't have to continue to woo our children into relationship with us. Just as we must continue to woo our spouses, we also must pursue our children. If we don't, others will. Peers, video games and technological gadgets all compete for the attention of our children.

Symtoms that children demonstrate when we have lost their relationship are they are disrespectful, they roll their eyes, they refuse to cooperate, they spend vast amounts of time behind closed doors or with their friends. Some experts say that this is typical teen development but this does not have to be the case. Losing our children to their friends can be quite dangerous as most children are immature, impulsive and sometimes risk taking. So our children turn to these relationships when we aren't watchful.

What is required of us is to "get in their space" more frequently. We typically "get in their face" when want to correct them, advise them or take away privileges. How often do we get in their space, in a loving, unconditional acceptance and with admiration?

Practice: This week "get in your child's space" in a way that connects the two of you at least 5 times this week.

By Kathryn Kvols, Author of Redirecting Children's Behavior and founder of INCAF

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